Narrative Medicine Monday: What is the Language of Pain?

Anne Boyer asks “What is the Language of Pain?” in this excerpt from her book The Undying. Her analysis of pain is a commentary on modern society: “To be a minor person in great pain at this point in history is to be a person who feels inside their body when most people just want to look.” To be sure, ours is a society of superficialities. Boyer goes on to outline the different kinds of pain, including the “epic pain of a cure.”

She argues that “pain doesn’t destroy language: it changes it.” She describes Hannah Arendt’s claim that pain’s “subjectivity is so intense that pain has no appearance.” Have you experienced this type of intense pain? Were you able to find the words, the language to describe it? Boyer argues that pain is, in fact, excessively communicative, that “if pain were silent and hidden, there would be no incentive for its infliction. Pain, indeed, is a condition that creates excessive appearance. Pain is a fluorescent feeling.”

Boyer concludes the the question is not whether pain can communicate, but actually “whether those people who insist that it does not are interested in what pain has to say, and whose bodies are doing the talking.”

Writing Prompt: Would you argue that “the spectacle of pain is what keeps us from understanding it, that what we see of pain is inadequate to what we can know?” Why or why not? Think of a time you’ve been in pain or witnessed a loved one or a patient in significant pain. Try writing (or drawing or painting) the experience with all of your senses. Alternatively, consider what pain has to say to you or those around you. Write for 10 minutes.

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Book: My Caesarean

Today’s the day! My Caesarean, published by Experiment Books, launches – just in time for Mother’s Day. I’m proud to be part of this anthology that Publishers Weekly calls “an enlightening reading experience for both those who’ve had C-sections and those who may.” In “Upside Down,” I wrote about having a planned primary C-section with my first baby, who was breech. Each story in this collection is unique, but the thread of shared experience reveals a true sisterhood. Happy Book Birthday to My Caesarean!

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Published: Humanity

Paloma Press’ “Humanity,” edited by Eileen Tabios is out! You can read more about it here, including options for purchase. In this anthology “we glimpse an overall picture of strength and fragility, of empathy, and myriad hopes.”

I’m proud my essay, “Dust,” originally published in Intima, is part of this diverse anthology.

Paloma Press is supporting migrant and refugee children through UNICEF here if you’d like to contribute to their important work.

If you’re in the San Francisco area, Paloma Press will be hosting a reading of “Humanity” to benefit UNICEF on 9/22/18 at the San Francisco Library, Glen Park Branch at 2 p.m. There will also be various readings throughout the country hosted by contributors, including Sonoma County, Atlanta, Norfolk and New York City.

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It’s a Book!

Looking for some great summer reading? The 9 Lives: A Life in 10 Minutes Anthology makes for an entertaining beach or bedtime read. This collection of creative nonfiction stand-alone pieces is authored by writers (including yours truly!) from all over the world. You can pick up your own copy from Chop Suey Books online here and “advance through the ages and stages of life, from birth to death, from our first breath to our last.” Don’t miss my essay “Fired,” written about one of my last moments with my beloved grandpa Gar.

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Published: Nine Lives


I’m thrilled to announce my essay “Fired” appears in a new book, Nine Lives: A Life in Ten Minutes Anthologyforthcoming from Chop Suey Books Books in June. Valley Haggard, of Life in 10 Minutes, is the mastermind and editor behind this exciting project. I can’t wait to get my hands on this compilation! You can purchase your own copy of Nine Lives, which is made up of short essays that follow the “ages and stages of life” online on June 14 from Chop Suey Books.

My piece that appears in this book highlights a moment I shared with my grandpa “Gar” during the last days of his life. In honor of Narrative Medicine Monday and this short personal piece, today’s writing prompt will focus on hospice.

Writing Prompt: Have you spent time with someone on hospice or near the end of their life? What do you remember the most? What have you forgotten? If you’re a medical provider, how does caring for someone as a medical professional compare with caring for a loved one at the end of life? If the experience was overwhelming, try focusing on the details: a glance, a thought, a smell, an item, a phrase. Write for 10 minutes. 

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