Narrative Medicine Monday: The Oncologist

Poet Carole Stone writes about “The Oncologist” in the Bellevue Literary Review. Stone starts with the questionnaire she receives: “Do you have an appetite? No. / Are you anxious? Yes.” I think of all the questionnaires we hand out to patients to save time, to make sure we get vital history, to screen for other issues that might not be readily apparent just by looking at the reason the patient came in. As a primary care physician, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen a patient for knee pain or seasonal allergies or a Pap smear, who actually wants to discuss their depression or panic attacks or fear of developing the same chronic illness as their cousin.

In Stone’s brief poem, though, she reveals the multitude that is assumed, that is missed, by these questionnaires and by the rote interventions that follow. Stone shares her inner dialogue when the woman suggests counseling and a writing group: “I imagine an unsharpened pencil, / and a blank page, / tell her, no.”

In the end, the patient and the oncologist miss a connection. Stone asks herself “Is this denial?” But verbalizes only that she has “nothing to say.” In modern medicine’s pressured office visits, sometimes the most important communication, how the patient is really feeling, what they are thinking, the opportunity to get to know a person beyond their disease, gets lost in all that goes unsaid between patient and doctor.

Writing Prompt: Stone declines the woman’s offer to try counseling or a writing group, commenting on her “stranger’s eyes.” Have you encountered a similar situation with a medical professional where they felt like a stranger? What is the balance of intimacy and intrusion when caring for someone who is gravely ill, has cancer or a debilitating chronic disease? Consider writing about a medical questionnaire you received and what it did and did not reveal. Alternatively, try writing about this exchange from both the patient and the oncologist’s point of view. Write for 10 minutes.