Free Write Friday: Fish

My dad is a fisherman. For decades he wakes predawn, slurps his miso soup under the lone pendant light hanging above the kitchen table. My mom sews mesh pockets into his fishing vest, fashioned for easy portability of his catch as he climbs the steep hill back to our Hawaii home. He says he likes the quiet, the peace, the solitary sunrise. To the fish he is a hunter, to the ocean he is miniscule. He is a witness to simplicity, to grandeur, to the significance, the impermanence of it all.

He regales with stories of almost being swept away: a riptide, an irritated eel, an aggressive ulua he fights to reel in, almost to his own demise. He says if he has to go, this is the way he prefers: swallowed up by vastness, not dust to dust but water to water.

Mom waits for him on the beach, latest novel in hand in the grey dawning light. They leave just as the tourists saunter onto the sand with their bright towels, their sweating coolers, their rented snorkel masks and fins.

We run to him when he arrives home, rinses off his fishing gear and his salt water soaked tabi boots, a type of Japanese shoe with a split toe and rubber sole. He proudly displays his catch as he transitions to the galley kitchen, deftly cleans and fillets the fish, readying it for that day’s dinner.

He settles in the turquoise armchair to prepare his fishing pole and reel for the following day. His clothes dry in the afternoon sun as his lids lower for a siesta.

Most nights Dad pulls out the deep fryer, lowers the breaded morsels into the sizzling oil. We three kids wait impatiently at the kitchen table for him to place a large plate of freshly fried fish next to our bowls of calrose rice, of pickled daikon radish. We complain about having the same meal every night for six summer weeks on end.

Now I crave fish, expect it, miss it when we make a pilgrimage to the Aloha State. I never learned the skill, had the temperment, the patience, the passion for catching fish. Nearly 80, my dad still wakes before the sun, ventures out to commune with, to capture the sea life. My dad, he is a fisherman.

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Free Write Friday: Sculpture

I settle at a table under a small tree. Leafy shadows dance on the tabletop, circular and marked with a giant “e.” Cyclists pass on the path before me, leisurely tourists on rented cruisers, road bike commuters eager to get to their destination.

A woman dressed in black lays out a large wool blanket on the grass. Eyes closed, palms up, she reclines onto her back, her face, her posture an offering to the sun that warms overhead. Everyone seems content on a day like today, gratitude easy for a city freed from months of grey with sun glinting off emerald waters, ferries crisscrossing and sailboats venturing to the horizon.

Pedestrians stop to consider the sculptures in the park. I hear a woman point to my table, the adjacent tree and benches. “It spells Love & Loss,” she explains to the elderly man hunched at her side. A glowing ampersand rotates above the installment on the other side of the tree. She goes on: “The tree is actually the ‘v.’ It spells ‘Love’ from this perspective on the path. If you climb the hill and view it from there, you see the word ‘Loss.'” He grunts in response, unimpressed.

I sit and write on the “e,” consider the love, the loss that marks a day, a season’s transition. The people pass, they soak it all in. Another person stops to consider the art: “I think it’s supposed to spell out ‘Love,’ but I’m not sure where the ‘e’ is.” She puzzles over this with her companion. My notebook, my novel, my bag, my water bottle are strewn over the ‘e’ as I work.

I gather all my things, make room for the hidden letter as a tanker ship enters the bay. I climb the grassy hill. Time for a new perspective.

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Free Write Friday: Flight

A toddler is whimpering a few rows in front of me, the cries familiar but blessedly not emitting from one of my own children. Crystals form at the edge of the triple-paned window, a patchwork of tan fields replacing snow-capped mountains below.

I relish the window seat as we cross the country, no one chatting at me, no requirement to interact. The three women traveling alone in my row are not interested in conversing. We pull out our novels, our iPads, our Bluetooth headphones to mutually ignore via podcast. It feels luxurious, this solitude in flight, this lack of responsibility.

I do wonder about the strangers that fill the narrow seats behind me, that line the rows in front. What are they doing? Where are they going? Where are they from? Are they heading home or on vacation or on business? Are the cramped quarters with scant sustenance and stale recycled air an annoyance or a reprieve from daily monotony, the chores of home life?

I’m most curious about my seat mate but I don’t make small talk until we’ve almost landed. I saw her credit card when she bought a Tom Douglas chicken curry bowl deceptively wrapped in aluminum foil, reminiscent of a TV dinner. Block letters eked out “Fred Hutch,” indicating the large cancer research institute famous in the Northwest. I wonder, is she a MD, a PhD? Is she a researcher or a clinician? Does she have children?

Throughout the flight she studied a sheet of paper with neat type and mumbled quietly to herself. She must be giving a talk. I bet she’s a mom, no time to practice her lecture until she’s suspended 10,000 feet in the sky, away from the demands of making dinner and wiping noses, of sticky fingers and work reports and piles of laundry and school paperwork. I want to know her all of a sudden, understand who she is and where she’s going. I venture a question as the landing gear deploys below.

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Free Write Friday: Loose Tooth

She avoids brushing her teeth, the bottom central incisor hanging on by tender roots, too delicate for her seven-year-old sensibilities. She eats oatmeal and yogurt, asks for Tylenol to dull the constant ache and budding anxiety. “I don’t think I can go to school today,” she announces, brow stern, eyes pained. “My tooth, it just hurts too much.” We convince her, mouth still full of baby teeth yet to be discarded, in order to finish elementary school before adulthood she’ll have to learn to endure.

The first tooth was lost in dramatic fashion on a cross country trail in the middle of Washington’s Methow Valley. Our family paused for a snack of dried mango, parents and three children irritable from a wrong turn, traveling on rented skis much farther than anyone intended. Gnawing on the leathery fruit, our eldest suddenly exclaimed. Her mouth ajar just an inch, thumb and forefinger gripped a tiny nubbin, crimson blood dripping onto the late winter snow. We celebrated and paid her the going rate. Some friends said a dollar, others said two.

Now at home, her second loose tooth dangles and each day is a struggle. She can’t eat this, can’t brush that. I venture a suggestion: maybe Mama could help wiggle it out?

I remember my own dad reaching into my barely open mouth, gripping onto my jiggly tooth; the anticipation, the rush with extraction. My own daughter is crying now, she craves resolution but is loathe to let me complete a task that could cause even momentary agony.

“Use a tissue!” she cries. I defer to her wishes and lay a tissue over her dangling incisor as she backs away from me, eyes wild as if I am a monster from a nightmare that once haunted her slumber. I speak gently, grip firmly, twist slightly and then it’s out.

Her eyes brighten instantly, her mouth widens with an authentic grin. She forgets about the blood, the raw nerves, grabs the tooth from me and rushes downstairs to write a note to the fairy, requesting an exchange for funds. She’s saving up for a unicycle, likes to hand cash to the homeless people holding cardboard signs on the city streets. She bounds down the stairs with her treasure in hand, carefully scribes her request, tucking it under her pillow in anticipation.

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Free Write Friday: Breakfast

Growing up, sugary cereals were only allowed for special occasions in my family. If we were on vacation my parents would succumb to the pleas of their three children and buy an eight pack brick of miniature cereal boxes: Sugar Pops, Apple Jacks, Frosted Flakes. We’d line them up on the dining room table, barter and trade and bicker as siblings do. My favorite was Honey Smacks, neon cartoon frog jubilant on the front, ready to leap. I liked the caramel flavor, the bean-like shape of the kernels in my small mouth.

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My mom would always wake with us, sit at the breakfast table no matter how early, clad in her cotton nightgown and cushioned slippers. The lone overhead light shone like a spotlight in our eat-in kitchen. I remember her stirring a pot of Cream of Wheat on the stove, my much older brother off at college, my younger brother still slumbering in his bed. I don’t remember talking much; we were both slow to articulate upon waking. The warmth of her presence, the hot cereal sweetened with a dollop of brown sugar, was the best kind of start to brave a new day.

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In residency we’d all gather for morning sign-out to discuss the overnight events on each patient under our care. Those of us on call would grab breakfast as soon as the hospital cafeteria opened; if one was tending to a patient, writing an order, responding to a page, the other would collect their food for them. We all knew the preferences of each other, constant companions for 36 hour shifts, 3 years of working 80 hour weeks together. You get to know how a person takes their coffee, how they like their oatmeal. There were cheesy eggs, regular eggs, strips of bacon, big vats in steel containers heated under red lamps. I liked getting a plate of scrambled eggs with a scoop of white rice, a couple of soy sauce packets tucked in my scrub shirt pocket. I’d mix them all together as I joined my colleagues for pre-dawn sign-out, a makeshift comfort food after an exhaustive night of work.

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Rhythm

I’ve been out of step, out of commission the past few weeks. I was incredibly ill over Easter weekend, had to cancel family events and it took my body a week to recover. I also was preoccupied with taking the medical board exam this week, a once in a decade test to maintain my license. My usual pattern of writing and blogging fell out of rhythm for the first time in two years.

I’m hoping to refocus, regain some footing now that I have other distractions behind me. Writing is essential to my life, my own self-care and purpose. I’ve been thinking a lot about rhythms of life, what is nourishing and essential, how different stages can be taxing in familiar ways.

Each month this year I’ve focused on a different area of personal growth. April is dedicated to the Sabbath, that sacred space of rest. I’ve always struggled with the concept of Sabbath and today’s nonstop rush of a world feeds into my tendency of devotion to productivity, to my To Do List, to my ambitions. I’m reading Wayne Muller’s “Sabbath“, which is a call to incorporating a rhythm of rest.

This may seem contrary to what I just wrote, about needing to re-establish my focus on writing, on my rigid rhythms. But I don’t think they’re actually incongruous, this need for structure, this necessity of rest. I want to avoid being legalistic about my schedule, but I also find comfort in boundaries, in a steady rhythm. Life brings so much unexpected upheaval. I don’t think it’s disingenuous to find peace in a plan that provides structure, that carves out time for that which is nourishing, which is restful.

What are your thoughts on rest? What rhythms of life do you find helpful or limiting? I will continue to explore this idea of Sabbath, but also return to my rhythms of writing in the hope that I’ll find peace both in learning to rest and in work that brings me fulfillment.

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Free Write Friday: Study

She lays out her highlighters, gathers her papers. She attended a review course with peers months ago, took notes from the lectures, sitting three quarters of the way back where she always can be found. She’s sorted the lecture slides, distilled the notes into neat documents organized by medical topic. She prepares to study.

The test only comes every ten years. She last took it at the end of her twenties, freshly graduated, freshly married. Studying was familiar then, she had no distractions. Now a decade later, three children and mid-career obligations provide frequent interruptions.

She sits in front of the computer screen in the early evening after tucking her eldest into bed, bleary-eyed from a full day’s work. She answers multiple choice question after multiple choice question, has to quit quizzing by 9 p.m. and crawl into bed.

She over-highlights her notes, as she always has. Neon yellow streaks her notebook so much that it doesn’t draw the eye to the critical as it should. She’s always been wary of leaving something out, letting a tidbit go, afraid she’ll miss it later on. She records even the most basic fact in black and white in case it escapes her overburdened mind. The result is too much retained, significance lost in overabundance. So much kept, she can’t tell what’s important anymore.

Prone to anxiety but gifted with compulsion, she never liked taking tests but survived the most examined profession. She sits for it again in two weeks, the boards. She’ll present her photo ID and settle into a straight backed chair, be issued her tiny whiteboard and dry erase marker. She’ll stare at a computer for six hours, interpret electrocardiograms and select the most appropriate treatment plan from the multiple choices.

Just after lunch her mind will become boggy. She’ll have to push through the examination fatigue, conjure the will to concentrate on each each vital sign, each lab result. She’ll muster renewed energy close to the end, sensing it near. She’ll collapse at completion, simultaneously buoyed by elation, as if she’s run a marathon, as if she’s climbed a mountain. And she has, in a way. She’s deposited all that information, stuffed into the recesses of her thoroughly educated synapses into the Prometric receptacle. She’ll be done. At least for another ten years.

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Free Write Friday: Office Plants

She’s cleaning out her office, sorting through papers accumulated at Tuesday provider meetings: handouts on how to order intravenous iron, avoid high risk medications in the elderly, updates on the latest USPSTF recommendations.

Her office plants, bought in between Child #1 and Child #2, have suffered. Although assured these were the hardiest of greenery when she chose them from the local nursery, they couldn’t survive two long maternity leaves, an owner who returned to work sleep deprived, plant care at the bottom of a very long list of responsibilities. The soil dried out, even the succulents wilted.

Her youngest now well into toddlerhood, spring emerging from the dark hibernation of winter, she begins to replant, regrow, cultivate, cull.

Ten years into practice, she tosses lecture notes from a decade prior. She updates the snapshots lining the wall behind her desk: her eldest in a tutu, her son being tossed into the air, the baby’s cherub smile gleaming on a sandy beach.

She purchases new plants, still hardy but more hopeful for a prolonged existence. She re-pots them on her back deck, digging into the dry soil with her bare hands, gently shaking the roots. She nestles them into ceramic pots, settles the loose dirt around coarse stems.

It feels satisfying, grime under her nails, handling the earth, cultivating vegetation. She’ll take them back to her desk, restock her favorite tea, keep purging her loose papers, her files. One decade into her career, she’s ready to grow.

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Free Write Friday: Theater

We’re both reminded of the Vienna Opera House. A decade ago we backpacked through Europe, before Instagram, before kids, before middle age trappings. The filigree, the chandeliers sparkling high above recall the memory for both of us, hippocampi aligned.

Glossy programs stacked high at the entrance relay the actor’s faces, serious and serene. There is no curtain for this show, only one set with minimal props. The music explodes into the air as the house lights dim. The voices, angelic, trumpet as I melt away into the narrative.

Honeycombed notes ring up through the rafters, beats play out on stage as they reverberate throughout the hall. I am in awe of the cast, of the the crew, of the writers. To bring such a story to vivid musicality, to delight the creative and intellectual senses: it is a feat.

The chorus is stunning to the ears but solos make me pause in wonder. To stand on stage with a spotlight aimed at you like a cannon. Absorb, and then deflect, all that energy from the sea of unseen bodies in the darkened audience. To project such a voice, such a singular act into the void of voyeurs. Talent doesn’t seem a sufficient word for the accomplishment.

I suppose it is a gift, to elicit wonder from a crowd of so many. The applause erupts as the finale decrescendos. We step out into normalcy, soundstruck.

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Free Write Friday: Cross Country Ski

The stillness is deafening. I startle to someone coming up behind me until I realize the swishing is from my own skis, legs scissoring across the powder, cutting into the silence-laden air. My quadriceps, my calves burn under layers of cotton, of smart wool. My nose ignites with the chill of exposed skin, nares dripping with shock. I pull my hood tighter, cocooning my half moon ears.

We come to a pond, sheets of ice overlay sections, tempting the foolhardy. A carved wooden sign marks it a “swimming hole.” I try to imagine a sticky summer day when a jump in those waters would be desirable, a welcome cooling. But all I can think about are my fingertips, numb and double-gloved, constantly flexing interphalangeals, willing the circulation to return.

I hear the river’s rush before we see it, the waters churn over smooth rocks, under the precarious bridge. The sound floats on the air, over the snow, down the trail, amplified as if running parallel, overhead, all around, rushing through us as we ski closer to the river’s edge.

The trail forks, we turn right, enter a grove of birch trees, slender white bark complementing the elegance of the silent snow. There’s a muffling to the drifts, an insulation and paradoxical amplification of sound. I like the set grooves in the trail, a designated place to put my slim skis, a comfortable path to follow. They keep me focused, respectable, out of harm’s way.

Today though, it’s too cold – single digit temperatures jolt this moderate-weather gal. We’re unable to enjoy the journey, frozen extremities too distracting. We hurry back to the warming hut, thermosed hot chocolate and a rush of heat greet us.

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